28th September 2017 / Gabriela Czwarnos
It’s funny how everyone has a different opinion about turning 30. For teenagers, the big 3-0 simply means ‘old’. In their heads, by that age, people have everything figured out: career, relationship and a big house with a garden and dog. It seems so far away, they can’t imagine it happening to them. For those in their 20s, turning 30 is a bloody scary moment: no more sleepless nights and 2-day parties, spending your wages on 3 pairs of shoes and surviving on super noodles, no more trying to get through days in the office on horrendous hangovers. It feels like a cut-off point in life. ‘By the time I am 30…’, everyone keeps promising, what will they finally achieve and who will they finally become.
By the time you are 29, the fear of ageing is so real that you will desperately try to hold on to your 20s by doing things that every 22-year old would be proud of. New tattoo? Tick! Purple hair? Why not! Quit your ‘adult’ job and go travelling? Yolo! You’ll probably find yourself dating someone who is too young to remember what a Walkman looks like? Damn you super hot 25-year-olds…
So, is it really that terrible? Should we cry into our birthday champagne flute? We’ve asked 8 amazing women to tell us what happens after the clock strikes. And, thank god, it sounds pretty damn promising! Maybe life does begin after 30…
“Don’t be afraid of change. Embrace it. Every time I have made a big scary decision and taken a risk to change something, it has been for the better. Even if not immediately.Gemma Harris
Change is good. Trust the magic of beginnings. The fact you aren’t where you want to be should be enough motivation. Leave the comfort zone – there are far better things ahead”. Gemma Harris, co-owner of Lineup Media
“You will become more confident with each birthday. By the time you hit your forties, you’ll genuinely stop caring about wanting to fit in, pleasing others (but not yourself) or what other people think about you. You will never feel so liberated”. Busola, journalist.
“The thirties is when you find your true love, excel in your career, move into your dream home and have a beautiful baby. What is not to like? It’s a decade when everything comes together and all struggles in your twenties finally cease and it all starts to make sense. Enjoy entering the most exciting decade of your life”. Emma, Founder of EBWPR.
“Don’t settle, and don’t worry about it. Focus on self-love and everything will work out in the end. In words of Steve Jobs, “You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards”. Joules, PA.
“This is your prime time – you are in control of your life and make the most of it. Use this power to make better choices for your health, career, love life — anything you want. Walk away from anything that upsets you, bad habits, companions or situations”. Sylvia, mum of 3.
“Embrace it – you will know your worth and you will find out what is it that you actually want from life. You will finally stop worrying what others will say or think about you. Make the most it”. Anna, dentist.
You will see life in a new light! There wasn’t a lot that I understood about myself until I hit my thirties – true story. Natasha, Beauty PR
There was no magical and sudden change, but throughout this decade I’ve found myself relating to my nearest & dearest, the world, my possessions, my passions and ME in a completely different way. Your inner world will become richer, life will make more sense, and you’ll be surer of who you are, what you want… You’ll experience a gorgeous clarity and purpose that will continue to grow as you age – exciting! Natasha, Beauty PR
Oh, go on then, bring on my thirties, I don’t like odd numbers anyway…